Ever felt like your body just... won't cooperate during intimacy? Like, no matter how much you want to, things just won't open up? You're not alone. We've talked about vaginismus before, and we know many of you are wondering if it might be what you're experiencing.

So, we're back with Dr. Niva Jacob, a seasoned sexologist, to help you understand the signs.

Can You Self-Diagnose Vaginismus?

"It's tricky," Dr. Niva says. "While some people get it right, many don't. There's no single test, but I usually ask these four questions to help people understand."

1. Pain During Penetration?

"This is the most obvious sign," Dr. Niva notes. "Pain during any kind of vaginal penetration—sex, tampons, exams—is a key indicator. The involuntary tightening of pelvic floor muscles is the culprit. Whether it's mild or intense, pain is a signal to stop."

2. Anticipatory Anxiety?

"Does the thought of penetration make you tense?" she asks. "It's a cycle. Fear of pain tightens muscles, and it repeats until things feel completely closed off. If your body reacts with dread or avoidance, it's a sign."

3. "Hitting a Wall" Sensation?

"Many describe feeling like there's a barrier," Dr. Niva explains. "Even when relaxed and aroused, penetration feels impossible. It's a physical block, not just pain."

4. Past Trauma or Negative Experiences?

"Vaginismus can develop without a trigger, but past experiences—painful first times, medical trauma, cultural stigmas—can contribute. Your body might develop a protective response."

Vaginismus Doesn't Define Your Love Life

"Communication and self-love are key," Dr. Niva advises. "Pressure makes it worse. Remember, sex isn't just penetration."

For more on vaginismus treatment, read our previous article here. For a consultation with Dr. Niva, click here.